Sonder is a ceremony held in
Jammu and Kashmir, celebrating the birth of a baby. The ceremony is held mostly on the eleventh day after a baby is born or on any other suitable date.
The relatives and the women of the house and neighborhood participate in this ceremony. The mother and the baby are given a proper bath and are suitable dressed in the morning. Small pieces of barks, called ‘bhojpatra’, are burnt and then moved around the heads of the mother and baby. A folk song specific to the ceremony is recited.
It is believed the recital of the song will avert any dangers caused due to bad omens and facilitate a safe delivery of the next baby. The lighted pieces of barks are then dipped into water and kept in a pot.
